Dude, I don't hate you. Don't like yer ideas or method of thinking on some stuff but I kinda like ya man cuz if nothing else, you are not hateful. And that is something I value greatly in a person.
I can tell you this man, that here on the Planet we all bicker, we fight sometimes, and sometimes some attack others. But when the shit gets real like what went down with your wife or a number of other things people have gone through we mostly all have each other's backs.