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Yesterday was beyond draining but now it's done. We discovered things about our son that we never knew.

He liked to keep a very tidy room which he never did when he was at home. He also developed an artistic side sometime after he left for college that we never knew about. We walked into his room to find a couple amazing pieces of art hanging on his wall. His roommates said he had made them on his own. In his night stand drawer there was a small ball of material that apparently he had been working on making a little animal for a girl whom he had been trying to win over. He would have made a phenomenal boyfriend and husband.

It was a pretty fast move. After the first wave or tears we started packing things up and all of his roommates carried things upstairs for us. We took them all out to our favorite sandwich shop and shared some more stories before we headed back home.

We unloaded the truck and took all of his stuff to his room and that's when it hit us all over again. I don't know when or if this will ever end but it's absolutely fucking excruciating.
 
Alk said:
Yesterday was beyond draining but now it's done. We discovered things about our son that we never knew.

He liked to keep a very tidy room which he never did when he was at home. He also developed an artistic side sometime after he left for college that we never knew about. We walked into his room to find a couple amazing pieces of art hanging on his wall. His roommates said he had made them on his own. In his night stand drawer there was a small ball of material that apparently he had been working on making a little animal for a girl whom he had been trying to win over. He would have made a phenomenal boyfriend and husband.

It was a pretty fast move. After the first wave or tears we started packing things up and all of his roommates carried things upstairs for us. We took them all out to our favorite sandwich shop and shared some more stories before we headed back home.

We unloaded the truck and took all of his stuff to his room and that's when it hit us all over again. I don't know when or if this will ever end but it's absolutely fucking excruciating.
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My heart aches for you and your family. I have lost my wife and a son over the years. I wish I could say it gets better. That isn't true you just learn how to cope with the new reality. Blessing on you.
 
I am not sure if this is the place to post this. Today is the anniversary of my dad's death. I have mentioned I was five. I am decades older, but still I friggen hate this day every single year. It always reduces me to nothing in mind.
 
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I want to believe I have everything right. My heart breaks for the life we live thru but It is also amazing, To the last several posters, Hugs. And thoughts. And Prayers, This is not about me. It is about life. And I feel your pain and also your joy. God Bless you all. Really I think that is what it comes down to.
 
Happy Birthday to the only angel ever been proven to exist. I love and so miss you mom. Hope somewhere and somehow you're with dad, the well earned love of your life to celebrate.

❤️

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The mourning tour continues for us. Today, KU hosted a "remembrance" service for all of the students and faculty that have passed away. We took half a day off of work so we could make the trip. It was a nice gesture by the University. The biggest surprise for us was that all of his roommates/friends showed up. I know us old farts like to bitch about the future generations but there are absolutely some good ones out there. It was a short service so we decided to make the most of the day and head over to our son's favorite bar that they all enjoyed hanging out at. We walked in just as they were opening so we virtually had the bar all to ourselves. It was nice to just hang out for a couple hours and share some stories and laughs and just try to imagine what it must haven been like to have his presence there.
 
Alk said:
The mourning tour continues for us. Today, KU hosted a "remembrance" service for all of the students and faculty that have passed away. We took half a day off of work so we could make the trip. It was a nice gesture by the University. The biggest surprise for us was that all of his roommates/friends showed up. I know us old farts like to bitch about the future generations but there are absolutely some good ones out there. It was a short service so we decided to make the most of the day and head over to our son's favorite bar that they all enjoyed hanging out at. We walked in just as they were opening so we virtually had the bar all to ourselves. It was nice to just hang out for a couple hours and share some stories and laughs and just try to imagine what it must haven been like to have his presence there.
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I have no idea how you’re doing it, but you’re doing great! It is a testimony not only to your son and the power of his influence and large circle and your own. I guess we know where he got it from.
 
Been a rough 6 weeks for Lori (and me). Six weeks ago her good friend Linda after a two year war succumbed to ovarian cancer. Yesterday our` good friend dot who was fighting brain cancer also passed. She had seemed to be doing pretty well and was s'posed to go home again today, but Wednesday was diagnosed with sepsis and quickly fell into Septic shock and passed early yesterday. Lori is awfully upset and I feel a bit helpless. Wish i could help more.

Cheers
 
BostonTim said:
Been a rough 6 weeks for Lori (and me). Six weeks ago her good friend Linda after a two year war succumbed to ovarian cancer. Yesterday our` good friend dot who was fighting brain cancer also passed. She had seemed to be doing pretty well and was s'posed to go home again today, but Wednesday was diagnosed with sepsis and quickly fell into Septic shock and passed early yesterday. Lori is awfully upset and I feel a bit helpless. Wish i could help more.

Cheers
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I'm so sorry Tim.

If I can ever be of any help you know how to get in touch with me.
 
BostonTim said:
Been a rough 6 weeks for Lori (and me). Six weeks ago her good friend Linda after a two year war succumbed to ovarian cancer. Yesterday our` good friend dot who was fighting brain cancer also passed. She had seemed to be doing pretty well and was s'posed to go home again today, but Wednesday was diagnosed with sepsis and quickly fell into Septic shock and passed early yesterday. Lori is awfully upset and I feel a bit helpless. Wish i could help more.

Cheers
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My heart cries for you and Lori's loss. No word can make the pain go away but know that many here care about you both. Facing the death of family or friends can be one of the hardest things we have to do. I hope you find the comfort that you both need to face the times that have come to you. Please if you feel the need reach out myself and others would be more than willing to listen.
 
As others have mentioned, if Lori or you need to vent my ears are open. Sometimes talking to someone new helps. So sorry for the ladies, their family and the both of you.💞
 
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