This is a great (and broad) topic for discussion but I'll try to focus on just one aspect and give an example that has been on my mind lately.
I live on the South Shore of Boston and have a group of friends/acquaintances from the North Shore. At some point during the pandemic, somebody
proposed that the guys form a Book Club and have monthlyish zoom meetings because it's about an hour drive away. The others involved are
very worked up over Covid and this was considered a way to safely socialize a bit.
So, I decided to give it a go and it's been more fun than I thought it would be and everybody typically contributes interesting stuff. However, politics have
been brought up several times lately and, in general, I don't share the same views as the rest of them. One guy likes to run his mouth and it immediately drags
some pretty high-level convo regarding the books (none based on politics directly) way down. This puts me in position of either keeping my mouth shut or
providing a dissenting viewpoint and going 5 on 1 with all the predictable exploding monkeys. I'm not going to get into it any further than that in this Forum, but I wanted to
point out that other than politics I really like these guys and find them intelligent and interesting when it comes to most things, but I can't stand any
more idiotic political manifestos or I'm going to fucking snap.
I've already requested several times that we keep the politics to a minimum and it was agreed, but that isn't what is happening. I don't know where this
is going, but as all the wives and girlfriends are closely connected if I lose my shit then the social fallout will be considerable just as people are starting to
crawl out of their hidey-holes and enjoy some sunshine. The chickenshit way to handle this is to invent a polite excuse and quit the club, i.e., "I just don't have the
time to read now that the weather's good", but I don't really do that.
I voted "moderately difficult" partially because politics is more divisive now than ever and I don't really want it to be. I can't afford to go scorched earth (for my
wife's social sake) and I can't really keep silent, so I'm more cautious about people I don't already know and, to some extent, those that I do.
My overall philosophy on friends is that I don't tend to make instant friends, but when I make them I try to keep them for a long time.