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As some of you may know from a post I posted last year about my mom having dementia, it's slowly progressing to the point that now we are going to have to put her in a home (Southridge in Biddeford) where she will be with her sister and closer to several of her other sisters. This hasn't been an easy task since I am located so far away from her but we are doing what she wants and what we think is best for her. We are getting some push back from my brother and her partner of over 40 years, they want her to live in a home closer to them (Lewiston) but this isn't about them and I can't seem to get that through their heads. Anyways, we are pushing forward and she is going into Southridge possibly this week, it will be comforting to know that she is being taken care of and is closer to her immediate family where they can visit her more often than when she lived in Litchfield. I figured I'd give an update and share it with the group.
 
AkPatsFan said:
As some of you may know from a post I posted last year about my mom having dementia, it's slowly progressing to the point that now we are going to have to put her in a home (Southridge in Biddeford) where she will be with her sister and closer to several of her other sisters. This hasn't been an easy task since I am located so far away from her but we are doing what she wants and what we think is best for her. We are getting some push back from my brother and her partner of over 40 years, they want her to live in a home closer to them (Lewiston) but this isn't about them and I can't seem to get that through their heads. Anyways, we are pushing forward and she is going into Southridge possibly this week, it will be comforting to know that she is being taken care of and is closer to her immediate family where they can visit her more often than when she lived in Litchfield. I figured I'd give an update and share it with the group.
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i am sorry to see this. it's such a heart-rending time. good for you for standing strong for what she wants. wishing you and your mom as easy of a journey through this as is possible.
 
AkPatsFan said:
As some of you may know from a post I posted last year about my mom having dementia, it's slowly progressing to the point that now we are going to have to put her in a home (Southridge in Biddeford) where she will be with her sister and closer to several of her other sisters. This hasn't been an easy task since I am located so far away from her but we are doing what she wants and what we think is best for her. We are getting some push back from my brother and her partner of over 40 years, they want her to live in a home closer to them (Lewiston) but this isn't about them and I can't seem to get that through their heads. Anyways, we are pushing forward and she is going into Southridge possibly this week, it will be comforting to know that she is being taken care of and is closer to her immediate family where they can visit her more often than when she lived in Litchfield. I figured I'd give an update and share it with the group.
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That facility is very close to my sisters condo which is off South St.
It looks very nice and it does have a good reputation from what I understand.
I hope that she will like it there.
And, you are right. It's about what she wants and what is best for her. When you have a group of people not everyone will agree. However, when a decision is made they should respect that decision and make things harder than they have to be.
 

The Official Real Life Happens PP Member Support Thread

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Just before Christmas we were all commiserating with Muse on her Mom's suffering and her passing.

I quietly said at the time, "More on Alzheimer's to come another day." I am struggling. Lori is quite rapidly falling to pieces cognitively For 8 or nine months, and continuing she has resisted any kind of cognitive assessment. She is just so depressed, so angry and so confrontational. Her short term is virtually gone, I fear having to impose a guardianship on her. It would seem a terrible betrayal. And it seems unavoidable. I must provide her the best care that exists, she deserves nothing less. No need for more details and nothing to report besides the dilemma.
Appreciate any helpful suggestions and will keep you posted.

Tim
 
ParanoidPatriot said:
That facility is very close to my sisters condo which is off South St.
It looks very nice and it does have a good reputation from what I understand.
I hope that she will like it there.
And, you are right. It's about what she wants and what is best for her. When you have a group of people not everyone will agree. However, when a decision is made they should respect that decision and make things harder than they have to be.
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We have heard the same, all the more reason for her to live there with her sister. Thanks PP.
 
BostonTim said:
Just before Christmas we were all commiserating with Muse on her Mom's suffering and her passing.

I quietly said at the time, "More on Alzheimer's to come another day." I am struggling. Lori is quite rapidly falling to pieces cognitively For 8 or nine months, and continuing she has resisted any kind of cognitive assessment. She is just so depressed, so angry and so confrontational. Her short term is virtually gone, I fear having to impose a guardianship on her. It would seem a terrible betrayal. And it seems unavoidable. I must provide her the best care that exists, she deserves nothing less. No need for more details and nothing to report besides the dilemma.
Appreciate any helpful suggestions and will keep you posted.

Tim
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This is what I fear most. I don’t know you beyond here but my sense is you will help make the best decisions.

I will say prayers for both of you.
 
Aloyouis said:
This is what I fear most. I don’t know you beyond here but my sense is you will help make the best decisions.

I will say prayers for both of you.
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Any decision I/we make will be from belief that it's what's best. Hope to be lucky enough to be able to choose what's best always.

Thanks for kind words and prayers.
 
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BostonTim said:
Just before Christmas we were all commiserating with Muse on her Mom's suffering and her passing.

I quietly said at the time, "More on Alzheimer's to come another day." I am struggling. Lori is quite rapidly falling to pieces cognitively For 8 or nine months, and continuing she has resisted any kind of cognitive assessment. She is just so depressed, so angry and so confrontational. Her short term is virtually gone, I fear having to impose a guardianship on her. It would seem a terrible betrayal. And it seems unavoidable. I must provide her the best care that exists, she deserves nothing less. No need for more details and nothing to report besides the dilemma.
Appreciate any helpful suggestions and will keep you posted.

Tim
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so sorry to read that you and she are going through this. 🙁
do you have healthcare p.o.a.? i know it sounds dumb to ask an attorney that.
 
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BostonTim said:
Just before Christmas we were all commiserating with Muse on her Mom's suffering and her passing.

I quietly said at the time, "More on Alzheimer's to come another day." I am struggling. Lori is quite rapidly falling to pieces cognitively For 8 or nine months, and continuing she has resisted any kind of cognitive assessment. She is just so depressed, so angry and so confrontational. Her short term is virtually gone, I fear having to impose a guardianship on her. It would seem a terrible betrayal. And it seems unavoidable. I must provide her the best care that exists, she deserves nothing less. No need for more details and nothing to report besides the dilemma.
Appreciate any helpful suggestions and will keep you posted.

Tim
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My heart goes out to you and especially your wife. You’re a good man Tim. We will be here for support. My Job as your friend is continue to provide you some laughter and hopefully give you some distraction from the pain you are going through. Peace Kevin
 
BostonTim said:
Just before Christmas we were all commiserating with Muse on her Mom's suffering and her passing.

I quietly said at the time, "More on Alzheimer's to come another day." I am struggling. Lori is quite rapidly falling to pieces cognitively For 8 or nine months, and continuing she has resisted any kind of cognitive assessment. She is just so depressed, so angry and so confrontational. Her short term is virtually gone, I fear having to impose a guardianship on her. It would seem a terrible betrayal. And it seems unavoidable. I must provide her the best care that exists, she deserves nothing less. No need for more details and nothing to report besides the dilemma.
Appreciate any helpful suggestions and will keep you posted.

Tim
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So sorry to hear this about Lori, BT. You have mentioned her many times over the years and it feels as if she is a member here.
I can't imagine having to deal with this situation. I know what others close to me have gone through with this. Listening to them is not the same as having to deal with it.
Stay strong BT. You sound like the kind of person that will make the best choices for Lori. Once you make the choice, don't second guess yourself. That's the only suggestion that I can offer.
 
BostonTim said:
Any decision I/we make will be from belief that it's what's best. Hope to what's best always.

Thanks for kind words and prayers.
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So so sorry my friend you and yours are in my thoughts…. It’s a difficult time and I wish you well. Hard decisions reach out to family and friends to guide you.

~Dee~
 
BostonTim said:
Just before Christmas we were all commiserating with Muse on her Mom's suffering and her passing.

I quietly said at the time, "More on Alzheimer's to come another day." I am struggling. Lori is quite rapidly falling to pieces cognitively For 8 or nine months, and continuing she has resisted any kind of cognitive assessment. She is just so depressed, so angry and so confrontational. Her short term is virtually gone, I fear having to impose a guardianship on her. It would seem a terrible betrayal. And it seems unavoidable. I must provide her the best care that exists, she deserves nothing less. No need for more details and nothing to report besides the dilemma.
Appreciate any helpful suggestions and will keep you posted.

Tim
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Sorry to hear this my friend, our best to you and your wife.
 
imapig said:
My heart goes out to you and especially your wife. You’re a good man Tim. We will be here for support. My Job as your friend is continue to provide you some laughter and hopefully give you some distraction from the pain you are going through. Peace Kevin
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Thank you. Perfect. I know your filthy shit will guide me through. :toast::toast::toast::toast::toast:
 
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