IF you could change ONE decision or thing, what would it be?

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Mr. Happy Sock

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If you were granted the power to change one decision you have made in your life....what would it be?

If you could change one thing that has happened to you in your life....what would it be?

One bad decision, one unfortunate event, one wrong move.........

As for me, I've had some traumatic things happen in my lifetime, I've also had some things happen that I thought at the time would ruin me, but the failure at the time actually opened a door to another opportunity which has led me to where I am now. I wouldn't trade my life for anyone elses; I am truly happy with a wonderful family and incredible children.

I take that back- I was going to invest a sh*tload of money into Google when it went IPO and told everyone I knew that they should as well, but at the last minute I got cold feet and didn't do it. I wouldn't have made life changing money, but it would have been an assload of bucks.
 
I was working in a bar during the summers in North Carolina while I was in college (my Dad lived in Charlotte.)

I was a 21-year-old virgin who had smoked a little weed in high school. I went in to stockroom to get something one night and happened on a bartender cutting a line. He offered me one and I accepted. Spent a lot of money that summer and the next on that crap. Money would have helped me out tremendously while I was in school.

Oh well. Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger, no?
 
patfan64 said:
I was working in a bar during the summers in North Carolina while I was in college (my Dad lived in Charlotte.)

I was a 21-year-old virgin who had smoked a little weed in high school. I went in to stockroom to get something one night and happened on a bartender cutting a line. He offered me one and I accepted. Spent a lot of money that summer and the next on that crap. Money would have helped me out tremendously while I was in school.

Oh well. Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger, no?
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From what I've heard, doing that in the 80's was the equivelant of breathing. Assuming you cleaned up after those 2 summers, you fared pretty good compared to most.

I hear what you're saying, though- drugs turn people into slaves. I thank God I never got into drugs (One of the few Vices I DIDN'T do excessively at one point or another).
 
I wish I would have put more of an effort into being a better football player. I had good instincts on the field, I just never had the drive or the love of the game like I do now. I doubt that I would have ever made it higher than DIII at best anyway, so it's not like I have delusions of grandeur.
 
Mr. Happy Sock said:
From what I've heard, doing that in the 80's was the equivelant of breathing. Assuming you cleaned up after those 2 summers, you fared pretty good compared to most.

I hear what you're saying, though- drugs turn people into slaves. I thank God I never got into drugs (One of the few Vices I DIDN'T do excessively at one point or another).
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The bar owners kid was the manager while I worked there (1985 and 1986). He was also the main supplier. I shudder to think about the wasted money that was supposed to be for my college expenses. It was too readily available and actually helped us get through those long shifts (7:00PM - 2:00AM) Weren't too many bartenders that weren't doing it at the time. We'd leave Charlotte at 2:15 or so and head down to Rock Hill, SC where the bars were open until 4:00AM and keep the party going. Not sure how my Dad didn't figure out what was going on.

Good times. Good people. But what a waste of $.
 
There was this one time in the Navy, with a guy wearing a Batman mask... I regret that...

...I never got his phone number. :shrug:
 
patfan64 said:
The bar owners kid was the manager while I worked there (1985 and 1986). He was also the main supplier. I shudder to think about the wasted money that was supposed to be for my college expenses. It was too readily available and actually helped us get through those long shifts (7:00PM - 2:00AM) Weren't too many bartenders that weren't doing it at the time. We'd leave Charlotte at 2:15 or so and head down to Rock Hill, SC where the bars were open until 4:00AM and keep the party going. Not sure how my Dad didn't figure out what was going on.

Good times. Good people. But what a waste of $.
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The lesson(s) you learned and the way the choice(s) shaped you into who you are today far outweigh a little extra spending money in college.
 
Fully Tilted said:
The lesson(s) you learned and the way the choice(s) shaped you into who you are today far outweigh a little extra spending money in college.
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Agreed. But it still bothers me a bit. I made serious money those two summers. I was taking home $150 - $200 per night 3 nights a week. Cash. Spent it on golf and partying.

Tsk, tsk.
 
Biggest regret is never serving my country. I would change that decision. I still could have gone to college after.
 
I wish I never got married.
 
My list is too big and it would be hard to find just one. Off the top of my head If I could go back in time I would change 5 things. I'll tell you one I married the wrong woman. The Sad thing about a year earlier I turned down a chance to be with my true love,but I didn't have the Balls to dump my fiance for her out of guilt and for the love of my Stepson. When I was young I only worried about other people and not myself. The thing I learned in life you must be happy to make others happy.
 
imapig said:
My list is too big and it would be hard to find just one. Off the top of my head If I could go back in time I would change 5 things. I'll tell you one I married the wrong woman. The Sad thing about a year earlier I turned down a chance to be with my true love,but I didn't have the Balls to dump my fiance for her out of guilt and for the love of my Stepson. When I was young I only worried about other people and not myself. The thing I learned in life you must be happy to make others happy.
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That's sad, Ima. I think I can honestly say that I can't think of a thing that I would change in my life. I had the most wonderful husband in the world who treated me like a treasure, we did everything we wanted and crammed seventeen years into a lifetime before he died. And then I was fortunate enough to find love a second time and now have a guy that makes me laugh every day of my life and is incredibly caring, thoughtful and loving. I guess I've been amazingly lucky in life.
 
PatsFanLisa said:
That's sad, Ima. I think I can honestly say that I can't think of a thing that I would change in my life. I had the most wonderful husband in the world who treated me like a treasure, we did everything we wanted and crammed seventeen years into a lifetime before he died. And then I was fortunate enough to find love a second time and now have a guy that makes me laugh every day of my life and is incredibly caring, thoughtful and loving. I guess I've been amazingly lucky in life.
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Yes it is Lisa,however I'm so much smarter because of my life experiences. My biggest fault that caused me so much havoc was my inability to handle success with friends and career. My ego certainly cause a few issues I must say..:jester: The funny thing Lisa I couldnt be happier right now. I was married for 17 years and I had a few relationships since my divorce. Ive had everything from the wild one night stand to a whopping one month relationship..ROFL I've notice I am very picky about women and I wont change who I am just to please the other and vice versa.

Friends of mine are freaked out because I havent been on a date since March of this year. I think as time has gone by Ive really liked the freedom to do what I want and noone to report to. I also have a daughter who lives with me still and is a bit on the slow side. She is everything to me and no woman will ever get in the way. She relys on me a lot for direction and comfort. The greatest feeling in the world is when you have a spawn who loves you more than anything!:)
 
I agree.

I have a fantastic wife and quite possibly the greatest kids on the planet! Fantastic job. Great home 1/2 mile from work. The company even put me through a program where I earned an Associate's Degree so failure to complete college is even off my list. I have no qualms.

I suppose I could really dig and wish I'd selected the CORRECT numbers when Mega-Millions was up in the 300 million range, but I digress.
 
BradyLady12 said:
Having a child with the wrong person
Trusting the wrong people
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But then you wouldn't have your child.

I don't regret having my children at all I just wish I never married Satan.
 
It would be hard to pick one decision. Besides, changing a decision to the "right" one would bring with it other headaches. I suppose I regret not studying harder and going to a REALLY good University. But then, I might have become a fast-stream type, working 70-80 hours a week (admittedly for 3-4 times my current wage). However, I doubt I would be any happier. My current job sucks but it's only 36 hours of suckiness per week.

I think I have learned to accept who I am more, now that I am 36. I am overweight, don't do enough exercise, do enough work to pay the bills and am not a Type A. 10 years ago, I wanted to be dynamic, go-getting and all that. Now I know quite a few people like that and I don't ACTUALLY envy them. I am me- I'm good with people, make people laugh (even Americans!), am good company generally and help people where I can. The dynamic stuff and the grown-up stuff isn't me.
 
I have been truly lucky too..and even the hard times were just meant to be. BUT I do wish I pursued a life in music. It was my most natural talent and love and still is to this day. I started writing when I was in 7th grade and should have really focused. What happened was that I started hanging out with VERY accomplished musicians and got gun shy thinking I could never match their talent. Silly kid! :)
 
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