It has taken forever to try to catch up to the end of this thread.
Anyways, a couple words on addiction. There are two distinct types - physiological and mental. Alcohol is a physical addiction, as is nicotine. They create changes in the brain that cause the brain not to create various chemicals unless the drug is present. In some cases, the brain quits creating as much of a chemical because it is being provided by the drug.
The mental addictions are based on creation of chemicals in the brain based on stimuli. In the case of gambling, it is often the adrenaline rush that the person is seeking.
Anyways, I grew up with an alcoholic mother who went through three rehabs and never quit drinking. She was 53 (?) when she was literally found dying in a gutter. She died of cirrhosis of the liver. She destroyed her life by drinking but she simply couldn't stop.
There is a big difference between a heavy drinker and an alcoholic. A heavy drinker may drink a twelve pack every night because they want to, but an alcoholic will drink because they have to. A heavy drinker will go to work for a day and then go out to the bar afterwards to get drunk by choice. An alcoholic will lose their job because they'd rather be drunk. This is not to say that a heavy drinker is not often times (or most times) an alcoholic, but alcoholism is simply an addiction.
I quit smoking for the third time over six years ago. I still get cravings now and then. I still have dreams of smoking. It was a very physical thing. I felt it in the back of my mouth. It's something that I can't explain and no addict ever really can. I know that if I smoke one cigarette now, I will immediately buy a pack and begin smoking again whether I know it's right or not.
Addiction is impossible to describe to those who have never truly been addicted. To those who think it is a matter of will power, it's not. There is an element of will power involved, but that is the will to seek help and the will to admit to yourself that there is a problem - the first step.
OldBag, I am right on board with everything you've said in this thread. Your posts have been dead on.