southcarolina
But, really, im not southcarolina
Short story (OK not so short 
).....13 yr old seventh grader, honor student taking advanced placement classes in math, language arts, social studies, and science. Had some "effort" issues in the first 9 weeks that caused his grades to slip a bit, we discussed it, got the problem fixed, grades went up, 2nd 9 weeks were all A's.
We kind of chalked it up to culture shock, as in our district all 6th graders go to one school made up of exclusively 6th graders. They do a lot of social indoctrination (like a zero tolerance hands off policy), but as far as school work its more like extended elementary school. Moving to 7th grade this year was the first time our son had ever been held 100% accountable for every assignment. IOW, in the past his history as "good kid" and "excellent student" i think got him off the hook sometimes when he didnt give his very best. This year, his teachers are giving him zero slack, and he is paying.
He got his report card this Monday, 2 B's 2 C's and a D. Mind you, his test scores grades are all for the most part good. His grades are suffering for stupid ass things like not filling out reading logs (and he reads incessantly) and not turning in homework assignments on time.
Today i layed down the hammer on him.
1) Quit soccer (one 1 hr practice and 1 1 1/2 hour game a week)
2) Quit piano lessons (one 30 min lesson a week)
3) Quit after school band (1 1/2 hour practice a week)
4) No marching band next school year (which he had been talking about trying out for), until he proves he can handle it
Also, we are making him repay the registration fees for soccer, and piano.
As a carrot, i told him that if his interim reports are all A's and B's he can pick one extracurricular activity to resume.
Now i am thinking maybe i was a bit harsh. But i felt like i needed to make a point.
Anyone else been in this situation?
).....13 yr old seventh grader, honor student taking advanced placement classes in math, language arts, social studies, and science. Had some "effort" issues in the first 9 weeks that caused his grades to slip a bit, we discussed it, got the problem fixed, grades went up, 2nd 9 weeks were all A's. We kind of chalked it up to culture shock, as in our district all 6th graders go to one school made up of exclusively 6th graders. They do a lot of social indoctrination (like a zero tolerance hands off policy), but as far as school work its more like extended elementary school. Moving to 7th grade this year was the first time our son had ever been held 100% accountable for every assignment. IOW, in the past his history as "good kid" and "excellent student" i think got him off the hook sometimes when he didnt give his very best. This year, his teachers are giving him zero slack, and he is paying.
He got his report card this Monday, 2 B's 2 C's and a D. Mind you, his test scores grades are all for the most part good. His grades are suffering for stupid ass things like not filling out reading logs (and he reads incessantly) and not turning in homework assignments on time.
Today i layed down the hammer on him.
1) Quit soccer (one 1 hr practice and 1 1 1/2 hour game a week)
2) Quit piano lessons (one 30 min lesson a week)
3) Quit after school band (1 1/2 hour practice a week)
4) No marching band next school year (which he had been talking about trying out for), until he proves he can handle it
Also, we are making him repay the registration fees for soccer, and piano.
As a carrot, i told him that if his interim reports are all A's and B's he can pick one extracurricular activity to resume.
Now i am thinking maybe i was a bit harsh. But i felt like i needed to make a point.
Anyone else been in this situation?
Holy guacamole batman! So "mean" as in unscheduled beatings and cattle prods? Verbally abusive? Demanding? Impatient? The door to your room removed to the attic? Etc.