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Sorry for your loss pyx!
 
I'm deeply sorry for the loss of your friend Pyx....
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So sorry Pyx. Your in my thoughts.

~Dee~
 
Thanks, you guys.

GM had been in Florida putting new engines in our boat because I was going there for spring break. Instead, I'm picking him up at the airport in 2 hours so we can begin to deal with all of the business of taking over the boat...or not. Depends on his widow. Then we have the funeral tomorrow.

Not looking forward to it,
 
Sorry Pyx :(

Finally saw my wife last night for the first time since she left 2 weeks ago. We'd almost not spoken at all over that time, which felt odd, but the meeting went well. Fortunately it seems like the split is going to be very amicable and civil, and we seem to be on the same page is terms of diving finances and assets.

I'm oddly calm about the whole thing now though. I'm almost looking forward to finishing this chapter in my life and moving on. I guess that right there should be evidence that I wasn't as happy as I thought I was, at least for the past few months - one year.

I have a bonus at work coming in about 1.5 months and I'm definitely going to head to a beach... now I just have to find someone to go with lol
 
PYX, my condolences!!! :(

Moose, when I got divorced I found that I was absolutely fine once I moved out. The sturm und drang for me was all before it, when we were trying to make it work. Once I decided to move on, I was fine. I hope that's how it is for you. It sounds almost like you've been gradually moving towards it for a year in your mind so maybe that helps. I think something sudden can be more traumatic. If you are someone who can be by himself and enjoy it, you might even want to consider just going on your vacation solo.
 
HSanders said:
PYX, my condolences!!! :(

Moose, when I got divorced I found that I was absolutely fine once I moved out. The sturm und drang for me was all before it, when we were trying to make it work. Once I decided to move on, I was fine. I hope that's how it is for you. It sounds almost like you've been gradually moving towards it for a year in your mind so maybe that helps. I think something sudden can be more traumatic. If you are someone who can be by himself and enjoy it, you might even want to consider just going on your vacation solo.
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I think you are right. And I was more of a mess in the fall when she left since, but now I'm 'fine' as you put it. I'm sad it's over, but I'm also looking forward to being in control of everything in my life starting now and hopefully meeting a new girl who better fits with who I am today.

I almost feel like I didn't reinvest fully when she came home, probably because I was subconsciously afraid it wouldn't work out. I obviously tried my best to make it work, but right now it feels like it's been a few months (instead of a few weeks) since it ended.

I do enjoy being alone, but this would most likely be a beach vacation to keep the cost down. I would love to go to Europe alone, but a beach vacation alone seems a bit odd :D
 
Moose,
Like others have said, going solo on vacation may be just what you need at this time. And, you never know, you may meet someone then. Your time will come - it is difficult but things will change.

Let me tell you something about me and Paul - we met while we were in school and had an off/on relationship for a number of yrs. For one thing, I just knew for myself, that I was not ready to make that kind of commitment to anyone. We broke up for what I felt was the absolute last time. I was actually happy with my life as it was and was not looking for anyone else. Four yrs later he contacted me, we got back together and nearly 2 yrs later we got married. We were married > 30 yrs when his mission on this earth was completed last Spring. As we grew older we came to believe that things happen for a reason - hence we'd found each other again. Do I wish we'd had more time together ? Yes, I do, but we both had realized that things turned out the way they did because this was God's plan for us.

I don't tell you this to turn this discussion into one about me because it is not. I just want to convey my point that good things will happen for you when you are not expecting it.

Gina
 
Created a new thread to move some of this stuff to, the topic got way of support and into...well a different type of support.

Thanks for understanding.
 
taltos said:
Moose,
Like others have said, going solo on vacation may be just what you need at this time. And, you never know, you may meet someone then. Your time will come - it is difficult but things will change.

Let me tell you something about me and Paul - we met while we were in school and had an off/on relationship for a number of yrs. For one thing, I just knew for myself, that I was not ready to make that kind of commitment to anyone. We broke up for what I felt was the absolute last time. I was actually happy with my life as it was and was not looking for anyone else. Four yrs later he contacted me, we got back together and nearly 2 yrs later we got married. We were married > 30 yrs when his mission on this earth was completed last Spring. As we grew older we came to believe that things happen for a reason - hence we'd found each other again. Do I wish we'd had more time together ? Yes, I do, but we both had realized that things turned out the way they did because this was God's plan for us.

I don't tell you this to turn this discussion into one about me because it is not. I just want to convey my point that good things will happen for you when you are not expecting it.

Gina
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Thanks Gina :)
 
If you all have time, I could use some good prayers, well wishes for my mom./
 
Absolutely . You'll be in my thoughts

~Dee~
 
My best wishes to you and the fam, Muse.
 
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