There are three of us girls. My middle sister lives an hour awy but she will be gone while I am up, they found out last month. I am surprised she did call me, my mom never ever calls me. It is always me calling her.
She was confused with some paper work she got in the mail. I told her that mom I took care of these papers last June when I was up and I will do it again this coming week. All will be fine. That calmed her down. But I know she will probably call me today or tomorrow with the same issue since she will have forgotten this conversation.
Support her whole family is there but mom is a private person and won't ask for help. My step-dad died two years ago this month and since then we have seen how bad it actually is. He really truly kept her grounded, with him gone she does not have that.
I don't call my time up a vacation. For I am keeing mom focused, keeping her busy getting her doing things she normally doesn't do when she is alone, bringing her to appontments and so on. I always have my sister schedule appointments when I am up that way she does not have to take time off without pay from her job which is what she has to do.
I don't wander far from her when I am up there. I might go to our one room library in town once or twice while I am up there. It makes visiting relatives and friends hard, especially friends for I think to myself, I am not there to have fun and reconnect with friends, I am up there to take care of mom.
I am rambling now. Sorry.
Happy Belated Birthday!
