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patswin said:
This is hardly a crisis but I wasn't sure where else to post it, and it is real life.
I had told my employer in January that I wanted to retire, and ballparked the end of June. Business is pretty rough in the semiconductor world but my segment of it was recovering well. Overall our division of the company has been lagging though. In any event, the decision was made to absorb our group into the parent company and many of us including me weren't offered a position. So.... I did get a severance package, my last day is March 28, and I shall be retired at that time. It's all good and amicable with me and the management, I have no issues with any of it. I've been 46 years at this, I was good at what I do, and it was fun. Time to move on. Sorta kinda excited and can't quite believe this time is upon me.
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That is fantastic, enjoy your retirement.

The state kicked me off as well Oct 1 of last year. They got tired of me even though I haven't been in a Chem lab in decades.* illnesses* Which is a shame since I miss my job and was very good at it.

Have fun, shugs, with your new timeline you will be forging on.
 
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patswin said:
This is hardly a crisis but I wasn't sure where else to post it, and it is real life.
I had told my employer in January that I wanted to retire, and ballparked the end of June. Business is pretty rough in the semiconductor world but my segment of it was recovering well. Overall our division of the company has been lagging though. In any event, the decision was made to absorb our group into the parent company and many of us including me weren't offered a position. So.... I did get a severance package, my last day is March 28, and I shall be retired at that time. It's all good and amicable with me and the management, I have no issues with any of it. I've been 46 years at this, I was good at what I do, and it was fun. Time to move on. Sorta kinda excited and can't quite believe this time is upon me.
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congrats, I guess.......

you'll wind up glommin' around all day on a football messageboard when you not D/L'n and breakin' down pR0n clips

allegedly......sources have told me

Good Luck!!
 
patswin said:
This is hardly a crisis but I wasn't sure where else to post it, and it is real life.
I had told my employer in January that I wanted to retire, and ballparked the end of June. Business is pretty rough in the semiconductor world but my segment of it was recovering well. Overall our division of the company has been lagging though. In any event, the decision was made to absorb our group into the parent company and many of us including me weren't offered a position. So.... I did get a severance package, my last day is March 28, and I shall be retired at that time. It's all good and amicable with me and the management, I have no issues with any of it. I've been 46 years at this, I was good at what I do, and it was fun. Time to move on. Sorta kinda excited and can't quite believe this time is upon me.
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You lucky dog! Enjoy your retirement!
 
patswin said:
This is hardly a crisis but I wasn't sure where else to post it, and it is real life.
I had told my employer in January that I wanted to retire, and ballparked the end of June. Business is pretty rough in the semiconductor world but my segment of it was recovering well. Overall our division of the company has been lagging though. In any event, the decision was made to absorb our group into the parent company and many of us including me weren't offered a position. So.... I did get a severance package, my last day is March 28, and I shall be retired at that time. It's all good and amicable with me and the management, I have no issues with any of it. I've been 46 years at this, I was good at what I do, and it was fun. Time to move on. Sorta kinda excited and can't quite believe this time is upon me.
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Congrats, brother. Excited for you that you get to exit from the rate race. Hope you've got some cool and exciting travel lined up!
 
As I wrote a while ago, my mom passed Nov 27 of last year. I had been planning this for a while, making sure all of our funeral clothes fit, making sure we have what need in case the moment comes that we have to up to Northern Maine. When my sister back home said the doctor told her to call family that was it. I went up alone and my son followed a few days later, he was a pall bearer. I remember my sister back home trying to find some of the pallbearers. My oldest sister and I immediately said out loud mom has three son in laws and three grandsons. so there you go.

Anyway, I really didn't grieve and I think it because I been planning and waiting for the moment so maybe I was at peace with it a bit? I been going up to Norther Maine for well over two decades to check on mom and my relatives, knowing once mom passed I would go up but maybe not yearly.

My two sisters they think we all have a good relationship but that is only because I keep a lot in.


Sorry I am digressing so much.

I use to talk to mom like she was here well before she passed.

But today I talked to mom knowing she was gone. But I talked to her like she was here again and saying the things I can;t say to my sisters.

But the whole point is I finally am crying as of today, knowing she is gone knowing technically while I have two sisters I feel alone on that side of the family of my two sisters and their families. I let this all to mom and been crying since. it won't stop.

I guess it is time to finally let the tears flow , not sure how this will pan out.


My sister in VA and I when we visited mom always stopped by Mrs. Bernadette.


The home mom was in was formally a home that converted to a home for Alzheimer;s but they had some residents who were not able to take care of themselves but had their mind still and Mrs. Bernadette is one of them so they just crossed over, I will probably start writing to her( she has had a stroke so calling her may not be possible but will send her mail like i sent mom even if she did not always know who I was.


Man I have really made this long here and I did wonder if I should say anything since while people know me here, they only know to a degree.


I miss mom and I miss my dad who I lost when was five. I have just a few memories of him and just a few pictures the time we had was just too short.


I best post this before I chicken out and also more tissues, The grieving has finally hit me this morning/

Sorry for rambling all over the place.
 
Muse said:
As I wrote a while ago, my mom passed Nov 27 of last year. I had been planning this for a while, making sure all of our funeral clothes fit, making sure we have what need in case the moment comes that we have to up to Northern Maine. When my sister back home said the doctor told her to call family that was it. I went up alone and my son followed a few days later, he was a pall bearer. I remember my sister back home trying to find some of the pallbearers. My oldest sister and I immediately said out loud mom has three son in laws and three grandsons. so there you go.

Anyway, I really didn't grieve and I think it because I been planning and waiting for the moment so maybe I was at peace with it a bit? I been going up to Norther Maine for well over two decades to check on mom and my relatives, knowing once mom passed I would go up but maybe not yearly.

My two sisters they think we all have a good relationship but that is only because I keep a lot in.


Sorry I am digressing so much.

I use to talk to mom like she was here well before she passed.

But today I talked to mom knowing she was gone. But I talked to her like she was here again and saying the things I can;t say to my sisters.

But the whole point is I finally am crying as of today, knowing she is gone knowing technically while I have two sisters I feel alone on that side of the family of my two sisters and their families. I let this all to mom and been crying since. it won't stop.

I guess it is time to finally let the tears flow , not sure how this will pan out.


My sister in VA and I when we visited mom always stopped by Mrs. Bernadette.


The home mom was in was formally a home that converted to a home for Alzheimer;s but they had some residents who were not able to take care of themselves but had their mind still and Mrs. Bernadette is one of them so they just crossed over, I will probably start writing to her( she has had a stroke so calling her may not be possible but will send her mail like i sent mom even if she did not always know who I was.


Man I have really made this long here and I did wonder if I should say anything since while people know me here, they only know to a degree.


I miss mom and I miss my dad who I lost when was five. I have just a few memories of him and just a few pictures the time we had was just too short.


I best post this before I chicken out and also more tissues, The grieving has finally hit me this morning/

Sorry for rambling all over the place.
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We are here for you. I lost my Dad on November 29th and I never mourned properly. Everything was a blur… a month later I fell into deep depression and it took a few weeks to get past it. You’ll be fine, but it’s going to take time. Be sure you come first though. Piggy
 
imapig said:
We are here for you. I lost my Dad on November 29th and I never mourned properly. Everything was a blur… a month later I fell into deep depression and it took a few weeks to get past it. You’ll be fine, but it’s going to take time. Be sure you come first though. Piggy
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Thank you. I think am just surprised that it is happening. Today is an normal average day, nothing is going on. I sat down and thinking/ talking to her just brought on the tears. Not sure why maybe it is just time. Thank you that last line. 💕 💕 💕


I tend to put everyone first.
 
Muse said:
Thank you. I think am just surprised that it is happening. Today is an normal average day, nothing is going on. I sat down and thinking/ talking to her just brought on the tears. Not sure why maybe it is just time. Thank you that last line. 💕 💕 💕


I tend to put everyone first.
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100٪ normal,happens to me w/ my dad a bunch. once i was actually having a good time doing something and it hit me how happy my dad was to see people happy and i started getting emotional. it will hit at crazy times,or what seems to be crazy times. i look at that emotion as an honor to someone you love when you feel their loss the most. for you confiding in you mom is one. hugs,girlie. we got you. 💓
 
Muse said:
As I wrote a while ago, my mom passed Nov 27 of last year. I had been planning this for a while, making sure all of our funeral clothes fit, making sure we have what need in case the moment comes that we have to up to Northern Maine. When my sister back home said the doctor told her to call family that was it. I went up alone and my son followed a few days later, he was a pall bearer. I remember my sister back home trying to find some of the pallbearers. My oldest sister and I immediately said out loud mom has three son in laws and three grandsons. so there you go.

Anyway, I really didn't grieve and I think it because I been planning and waiting for the moment so maybe I was at peace with it a bit? I been going up to Norther Maine for well over two decades to check on mom and my relatives, knowing once mom passed I would go up but maybe not yearly.

My two sisters they think we all have a good relationship but that is only because I keep a lot in.


Sorry I am digressing so much.

I use to talk to mom like she was here well before she passed.

But today I talked to mom knowing she was gone. But I talked to her like she was here again and saying the things I can;t say to my sisters.

But the whole point is I finally am crying as of today, knowing she is gone knowing technically while I have two sisters I feel alone on that side of the family of my two sisters and their families. I let this all to mom and been crying since. it won't stop.

I guess it is time to finally let the tears flow , not sure how this will pan out.


My sister in VA and I when we visited mom always stopped by Mrs. Bernadette.


The home mom was in was formally a home that converted to a home for Alzheimer;s but they had some residents who were not able to take care of themselves but had their mind still and Mrs. Bernadette is one of them so they just crossed over, I will probably start writing to her( she has had a stroke so calling her may not be possible but will send her mail like i sent mom even if she did not always know who I was.


Man I have really made this long here and I did wonder if I should say anything since while people know me here, they only know to a degree.


I miss mom and I miss my dad who I lost when was five. I have just a few memories of him and just a few pictures the time we had was just too short.


I best post this before I chicken out and also more tissues, The grieving has finally hit me this morning/

Sorry for rambling all over the place.
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When my mom passed we knew it was coming and I was responsible for managing all her care and financial affairs, the funeral the reception after and all of that. I was relieved when she passed since her suffering ended. I had so much on my plate I didn’t have time to feel bad.

6 months later it was her birthday and I went to my office and was very upset. I sat and stared out the window and wasn’t good for much that day. Call it delayed grief or whatever.

You are not alone in this situation. It will pass. The pain does not last. The good memories endure.
 
HSanders said:
100٪ normal,happens to me w/ my dad a bunch. once i was actually having a good time doing something and it hit me how happy my dad was to see people happy and i started getting emotional. it will hit at crazy times,or what seems to be crazy times. i look at that emotion as an honor to someone you love when you feel their loss the most. for you confiding in you mom is one. hugs,girlie. we got you. 💓
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I love this, thank you, lady, It is just overwhelmed.

💕 💕 💕
 
patswin said:
When my mom passed we knew it was coming and I was responsible for managing all her care and financial affairs, the funeral the reception after and all of that. I was relieved when she passed since her suffering ended. I had so much on my plate I didn’t have time to feel bad.

6 months later it was her birthday and I went to my office and was very upset. I sat and stared out the window and wasn’t good for much that day. Call it delayed grief or whatever.

You are not alone in this situation. It will pass. The pain does not last. The good memories endure.
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Mom took care of her funeral etc when my dad died. We knew what coffin she chose, the flower, everything. But there was a lot to take care of like you mentioned. What pissed me off is my two sisters were making the decisions until I piped up and said I want to be involve also. I got the looks from of them but didn't care. After that I was included.

I arrived on Sun, said a rosary by her bed with my oldest sister by me. The one who lives nearer had left since she had been there since Friday. She had stayed over night since Friday. We stayed overnight as well. Mom died the next day. My oldest sister asked if I would say a decade of the rosary at her wake and I immediately said yes not thinking of me being in front of all the people there. It is the little things like that , well maybe not little, helps with my mind and heart.


My two sisters were balling the entire time, I wiped a few tears at the funeral. Mom is not buried yet, the ground was too frozen. So at the back of the church after the mass was her coffin as the pall bearers were going to move her to the building where they are held until the ground is not hard. I went to her coffin and patted it three times and told mom I love her, that open up a heck of tears as my son patted my back.

Apart from those two episodes no tears. I know she is in a better place, Alzheimer's is a bitch.


Again, I am rambling and I am not sure why.


Thank you @patswin for your comments. 💕 💕 💕
 
Muse said:
As I wrote a while ago, my mom passed Nov 27 of last year. I had been planning this for a while, making sure all of our funeral clothes fit, making sure we have what need in case the moment comes that we have to up to Northern Maine. When my sister back home said the doctor told her to call family that was it. I went up alone and my son followed a few days later, he was a pall bearer. I remember my sister back home trying to find some of the pallbearers. My oldest sister and I immediately said out loud mom has three son in laws and three grandsons. so there you go.

Anyway, I really didn't grieve and I think it because I been planning and waiting for the moment so maybe I was at peace with it a bit? I been going up to Norther Maine for well over two decades to check on mom and my relatives, knowing once mom passed I would go up but maybe not yearly.

My two sisters they think we all have a good relationship but that is only because I keep a lot in.


Sorry I am digressing so much.

I use to talk to mom like she was here well before she passed.

But today I talked to mom knowing she was gone. But I talked to her like she was here again and saying the things I can;t say to my sisters.

But the whole point is I finally am crying as of today, knowing she is gone knowing technically while I have two sisters I feel alone on that side of the family of my two sisters and their families. I let this all to mom and been crying since. it won't stop.

I guess it is time to finally let the tears flow , not sure how this will pan out.


My sister in VA and I when we visited mom always stopped by Mrs. Bernadette.


The home mom was in was formally a home that converted to a home for Alzheimer;s but they had some residents who were not able to take care of themselves but had their mind still and Mrs. Bernadette is one of them so they just crossed over, I will probably start writing to her( she has had a stroke so calling her may not be possible but will send her mail like i sent mom even if she did not always know who I was.


Man I have really made this long here and I did wonder if I should say anything since while people know me here, they only know to a degree.


I miss mom and I miss my dad who I lost when was five. I have just a few memories of him and just a few pictures the time we had was just too short.


I best post this before I chicken out and also more tissues, The grieving has finally hit me this morning/

Sorry for rambling all over the place.
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Will the circle be unbroken? :cry:
 
BostonTim said:
Will the circle be unbroken? :cry:
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With my mom and dad, no. I still talk to dad though I didn't have him long. Now I will continue to talk to mom just now I won't be able to call her. I took a lot pictures and a lot of videos of mom in the last few years knowing I should take for prosperity for when she was no longer able to do them. One year I went up and asked my mom 100 questions, my goal was to write a book for my sisters and all the things mom and I discussed. I need to do that for me and for them, whether they will like it or not. With Alzheimer's patients they revert to their native tongue so near the end mom thought, spoke and acted in French, I made sure I got those videos also.

Every year I visit dad's grave when I am home, just next time it will be for the both of them. Man, that sucks. :(:(:(
 
Muse it’s hard losing those closest to you. Ive lost both parents both in-laws, and a BIL and my brother. It never gets easy, but time heals. I still think of them daily I know the hardest for both my hubby and I were the deaths of our brothers ….

(((((((hugs))))))))

~Dee~
 
Muse said:
With my mom and dad, no. I still talk to dad though I didn't have him long. Now I will continue to talk to mom just now I won't be able to call her. I took a lot pictures and a lot of videos of mom in the last few years knowing I should take for prosperity for when she was no longer able to do them. One year I went up and asked my mom 100 questions, my goal was to write a book for my sisters and all the things mom and I discussed. I need to do that for me and for them, whether they will like it or not. With Alzheimer's patients they revert to their native tongue so near the end mom thought, spoke and acted in French, I made sure I got those videos also.

Every year I visit dad's grave when I am home, just next time it will be for the both of them. Man, that sucks. :(:(:(
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How you feel and how you are reacting to it is all normal. Like Dee, Lynn and I have lost our parents and her younger sister. It takes time to make it easier to deal with. I hope that this has the effect of driving you and your sisters closer somehow. Grief does things sometimes. When we lost my mom in a nursing home alone during covid it drove my brother and I closer. I hope the same for you and your sisters.
 
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aloyouis said:
How you feel and how you are reacting to it is all normal. Like Dee, Lynn and I have lost our parents and her younger sister. It takes time to make it easier tho deal with. I hope that this has the effect of driving you and your sisters closer somehow. Grief does things sometimes. When we lost my mom in a nursing home alone during covid it drove my brother and I closer. I hope the same for you and your sisters.
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The death of my brother brought my eldest brother and I a lot closer then ever. So yeah I agree.

~Dee~
 
PumpDee said:
Tough times I wish you didn't have to go through. I think about my own parents and how I will handle the loss. Thoughts and prayers, Muse.
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Thank you so much. 💕 💕 💕

My dad well I was five and I was not allowed to go see him due to the age. That sucked since I could not say good bye. I have few memories of him. Mom thankfully I was by her side when she passed.
 
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