fusion99
Well-known member
Dear fellow planeteers, I need your advice here!
Here's the story. There's a girl, that over the past few months, which I have grown very fond to. She works in the same building that I do, but for a different company. Both of the companies that we work for are sister companies - so we don't actually work together, but most of our conversations take place during work hours.
I never really noticed her until a couple of months ago when we had a company party. I ended up talking to her for pretty much the whole night. It wasn't until that night that I really realized what she brings to the table, personality-wise.
She has a lot of awesome qualities which I find extremely attractive. She's very smart, really nice, funny, ambitious, and down to earth - not to mention pretty cute. From my experiences with the opposite sex, I don't find qualities like that in a woman very often. I couldn't ask for more out of one person.
Since then, we've talked on and off about various work and personal topics, and I have even gotten her to do work for my own side business. I'll be honest though, the only reason I had her do work for my side business was so I could interact with her on a regular basis. You know, find out what she likes and does in her free time, plus, it gives me a good excuse to take her out to lunch.
Well after we were both done for the day, she comes over to my office and we start talking, and the topic came up of me putting my life on the right track. After this short conversation, she goes into a diatribe about how shes going through a mid-life crisis - keep in mind that she's still younger than 30.
I honestly didn't know what to say and I felt uncomfortable to ask what was going on in her personal life which would make her say that. I am still getting to know her on a personal basis, and didn't want to get too deep into the reasoning why she'd mention that to me.
Here's the problem which leads up to the question. I am truly concerned that she's having some sort of problem in her life and I don't know how to approach her about it. In fact, if it's a relationship problem (she mentioned having a boyfriend once to me and never talked about him again), I just want to let her know that I'm there if she needs someone to talk to, plus - and here's the tricky part - I really want to tell her how I feel about her without jeopardizing our relationship at work - because that can really mess things up.
How can I do that? Is it even possible?
Here's the story. There's a girl, that over the past few months, which I have grown very fond to. She works in the same building that I do, but for a different company. Both of the companies that we work for are sister companies - so we don't actually work together, but most of our conversations take place during work hours.
I never really noticed her until a couple of months ago when we had a company party. I ended up talking to her for pretty much the whole night. It wasn't until that night that I really realized what she brings to the table, personality-wise.
She has a lot of awesome qualities which I find extremely attractive. She's very smart, really nice, funny, ambitious, and down to earth - not to mention pretty cute. From my experiences with the opposite sex, I don't find qualities like that in a woman very often. I couldn't ask for more out of one person.
Since then, we've talked on and off about various work and personal topics, and I have even gotten her to do work for my own side business. I'll be honest though, the only reason I had her do work for my side business was so I could interact with her on a regular basis. You know, find out what she likes and does in her free time, plus, it gives me a good excuse to take her out to lunch.
Well after we were both done for the day, she comes over to my office and we start talking, and the topic came up of me putting my life on the right track. After this short conversation, she goes into a diatribe about how shes going through a mid-life crisis - keep in mind that she's still younger than 30.
I honestly didn't know what to say and I felt uncomfortable to ask what was going on in her personal life which would make her say that. I am still getting to know her on a personal basis, and didn't want to get too deep into the reasoning why she'd mention that to me.
Here's the problem which leads up to the question. I am truly concerned that she's having some sort of problem in her life and I don't know how to approach her about it. In fact, if it's a relationship problem (she mentioned having a boyfriend once to me and never talked about him again), I just want to let her know that I'm there if she needs someone to talk to, plus - and here's the tricky part - I really want to tell her how I feel about her without jeopardizing our relationship at work - because that can really mess things up.
How can I do that? Is it even possible?
same as non single life
