Interesting thing, here.
I talked with both G/F and sister last night, seperately and together. Putting everything else aside, neither of them had a problem with me posting here, both understood why I did, and both had read it. Both understood that the threesome stuff was a joke. Both laughed at the misunderstandings and mischaracterizations that stemmed from this, particularly Sister as some kind of "Jezebel," which couldn't be more rediculous. I don't know how many times I have to say that she didn't try to seduce me, that everything was verbal, that she dresses very modestly, etc. In fact, what I said about her leaning in close and asking if she was wrong to think that I felt the same way is about the closest to "seductive" I've ever seen her.
BUT...
This MORNING I got a phonecall from G/F. She had looked at the board again, and seen Alice's and WYO's comments, and she was seriously pissed off. Both at them for their comments, and NOW she was starting to get mad at me for posting it. Why? Not because it was aired publicly. Hell, there are more than 10 million people in Texas - it's hiding in plain sight. She was pissed off at the mischaracterizations, the character assassinations, on both her and her sister, and now on me.
She's not some no-self-respect chick who's pissed off because her sister's hot. She's hot - beautiful more than hot, almost, but still hot. She's a successful, smart, beautiful woman. She's dated dozens of guys before me, probably 4 or 5 seriously. I don't think she's going to "fight for me," not because she doesn't want to, but because she KNOWS. She's known for awhile.
As for Sister, I've already gone into the Jezebel comparison and how stupid that is. Let me add this to the pile: she's a virgin. Hell, they both are. 27 and 24, beautiful, smart, virgins. And they went to college for more than their "Mrs." Degree. Both of them know that they are good looking, and both of them make a point of dressing modestly precisely so they don't attract the kind of guys that are into sleeze.
And remember, this isn't about "fresh." This is a young woman who I've known for some time, and who is one of my closest friends. Not some chippy who waltzed into my office some day in a tankini and asked if I would be so kind as to rub some lotion on her back.
She's not going to tell her father, of course...and frankly, I wouldn't mind if she did.
There's a reason, and a d@mn good one, that the guys on this thread have been pretty supportive of how I handled the situation: because either they, or most of the guys they know, wouldn't have had the balls to stand up for themselves and do what I did. The girl's father is an interesting combination of a "Man's man" and an oldstyle gentleman. If he were to read this, he'd end up calling me and we'd talk it out. We'd probably yell some, but he'd understand, and know that what I did was honest, and took guts. And I KNOW this about him.
No, I don't tell G/F everything, but I always make sure to let her know where I stand, and what I feel. THAT is one of the most painful things to her in this situation - that I held back something I was FEELING from her for so long. I've made a conscious effort to invest myself fully in any serious relationship I enter - while I'm generally a private person, in a romantic relationship I open up as much as I possibly can. I WANTED her to read this thread, so she could know how I've been feeling, and what I've been thinking in a medium that was time stamped. To make up for some lost time, to fill her in.
As for not telling G/F why I was ending the relationship...frankly, you guys can go screw. That's total hoss-sh!t. Does that or does that not go directly against the constant complaint that guys do not explain their feelings or their actions? How many times do women complain that the guy ended a relationship, and didn't even give a reason? And you know what? This reason SURE AS HELL WOULD HAVE COME OUT AT SOME POINT. Remember this: I'm not trying to avoid hurt feelings. They happen, and there is simply no way to avoid hurt feelings in this situation - period. They're freaking SISTERS...even if I moved to Uzbekistan, it isn't like they wouldn't have wondered why, and talked about it. I promise you that Sister would have told G/F about it, and then any chance I might have possibly had to salvage a relationship (any relationship) with either of them would be sunk.
Alice - I hope it makes you feel great to be holier-than thou, and must-be-right on a message board, reading things in to a situation about people you don't know. Because NOW G/F is pissed off. She didn't care about me posting here...frankly she was interested to see the different responses, and we all shared a (somewhat uncomfortable) joke about a threesome. They can joke about that because of the type of people they are - it hasn't a prayer in the world of happening.
But she's pissed off now, at the mischaracterizations, and at me for allowing herself and her sister to be painted that way. As of early this morning. I take responsibility for that, because I didn't go into as much detail as I should have about what sort of people they were. But to launch into the kind of self-righteous rant that you did above is inexcusable.
You have to know that you DON'T know the people involved, and that people are different. You must know that the information you have is immeasurably incomplete, by the nature of the medium. And yet you are presumtuous enough to d@mn me, Sister, AND G/F for a situation that there is no way of you knowing the inner dynamics of, involving people you don't know. Did you happen to notice that everyone else in the thread was very cautious in giving their advice, tempering their remarks with things like "Its hard to know," etc.? ("Bang the sister" aside, of course).
REALPOLITIK, Alice? I hope my love life never comes to that. I'm not into fuzzing facts to soothe feelings, and I try to tell it like it is. I've made a point to try and live my life much more in conformity to idealism than to pragmatism. I have a hard time regretting that, even though it's cost me a lot. I'm fine with that. Hell, case in point. I'm not a virgin, and I don't believe that pre-marital sex is wrong. But my G/F did, so I didn't have sex for well over a year, because I wouldn't cheat (didn't want to), and I respected her beliefs too much to try and change them.
What is it coming to when a group of guys is applauding another guy for being honest and sharing his feelings, and the girls are pissed off because he did, that saying what he really felt was too cruel and insensitive? Hoss-sh!t.
Maybe he'll go all "George Clooney" on me so I can do a lap dance and give him something "fresh". 
